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Stress and Eating Habits

The Physical Stress Response

During the initial waves of a stress attack, the adrenal medulla produces and releases the hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline.

These hormones increase blood sugar levels, rapidly supply the brain and muscles with energy, accelerate the heartbeat, increase blood pressure – basically, your entire body enters a state of defensive readiness. During these initial waves of stress, the body may also experience a rise in libido. This often results in headaches for men.

In order to calm the body from this first wave of stress, the hormone cortisol is released. Cortisol helps calm your nerves and prevents inflammation.

Chronic stress, however, means too much cortisol in the blood and this can have devastating consequences for your health.

Imagine, for a moment, a room on fire. You call the fire department, they rush to the scene and extinguish the fire with tons of water. The fire is put out, but the water has destroyed everything in the room.

Think of cortisol as the water that douses a fire.

Large amounts of cortisol can destroy your immune system over time.

It reduces the ability to fight pathogens and thus you become susceptible to every disease under the sun, from heart disease to memory disorders to depression. If you have had cancer in the past, your recovery can be negatively affected.

Stress has been shown to physically alter blood vessels and alter the brain.

Cortisol also affects your desire to eat. It blocks your appetite and suppresses neurotransmitters (leptin), which, in turn, leads to an awakened appetite and the secretion of insulin. When insulin levels are high, the body screams for sugar, like sweets, chocolate, cakes, etc. These cravings for sweets begin to overwhelm us and we feel powerless and out of control.

Do Women Experience More Stress than Men?

Did you know that women are more prone to mental illness than men? When it comes to depression, eating disorders, anxiety disorders and sleeping problems, women lead the pack.

A study of more than 13,000 participants in 25 countries, sheds light on the fact that:

  • Women still do three times more housework than men, even when they have full-time jobs.
  • Women in Europe do better, stress-wise, when they spend more time at work and less time doing housework.

Women handle stress differently than men.

“Men drink, women worry.”

That’s an old slogan used by Anglo-American psychiatrists.

But now that women make up a large percentage of the workforce, alcohol consumption by women has increased exponentially. And there are many physicians that are concerned about women drinking more and more, particularly during pregnancy.

While bullying in the professional world enjoys much of the media spotlight, stress of child rearing is, comparatively speaking, given little attention.

As long as political recognition goes to how well women fulfil their roles as providers in the home – for children and the older generation – the imbalance of women suffering from mental illnesses will remain unchanged.

Stress, Feelings and Thoughts

One group, particularly susceptible to the pressure of stress is mothers between 30 and 60. I don’t want to tell you that there are no other people with stress. Stress is not related to a specific age or gender. The underlying problem is similar for all. So, dear reader, if you are a man, read this book and find examples for yourself.

Mothers are often under extreme pressure to be perfect: to perfectly balance careers, child rearing, household duties and, of course, their appearance.

In fact, in terms of their physical appearance, the media sends the message that all mothers should be sexy, that they should look at least ten years younger than they really are.

Indeed, many mothers get the message through the media and politics that it’s very easy to balance their career, children and body.

Women have to be happy, good looking, always in a good mood, sexy, and always appear 10 years younger.

There is a whole industry that tells women what they should look like. One hero of that industry is supermodel Heidi Klum, who after four kids still manages to have a perfect size 6 figure. “What is wrong with me that I don’t wear a size 6?” you may ask yourself after your first or second child. “Why am I still a size 12 or 14?”

And when it comes to parenting: what is parenting nowadays anyway? You, of course, want to be a good mother, but how will you know if you are a good mother? You may be worrying about whether you should have your child start learning Mandarin at the age 2, whether your child is clean enough, whether your child has the right clothes and toys. How long children should be supported?

My mother-in-law always told me stories about her son and how she managed to keep him so clean when he was only a year old.

I remember another mother once telling me that her son listened to operas with keen interest at the ripe old age of three. And my son? He was still listening to simple children’s songs. “Am I being a good mother?” I wondered. And suddenly, I was uncertain about everything. “How can I be better? How can I give my child the best?” I thought.

These spinning thoughts lead to a single question: What types of children have good mothers? Superstars? Surgeons? A top university students? In our culture, the answer to all those questions is yes. So we work ourselves to the bone to produce “good” kids.

So what if your child has no interest in school or learning? What if your child smokes and hangs out with the “wrong” crowd? What if your child doesn’t behave at the table, hates piano lessons, plays truant all the time?

In our society, we suffer from competition addiction. We are addicted to being better than others because it makes us feel better about ourselves. It’s a way to strengthen our ego with the result that often the fear of not being „good enough“ gets stronger and stronger.

Imagine the above-mentioned is true for your inner child, a small voice inside your head, maybe begins to gain power: “Am I good enough?” it asks.

Then the voice gets louder and a landslide of negativity is unleashed: “You’re a failure as a wife. You’re a failure as a mother. Just look at you! Your child is a failure. And look at your hair? And your weight! No wonder your husband looks at other women so often! And what about your job? Have you even advanced one step in your career?”

The shame, the feeling of not being good enough, is widespread. Shame has nothing to do with guilt, but rather with the feeling of being a failure and not being good enough.

But why is this? Neurobiologists suspect that our sense of shame is rooted deeply in the amygdala. In the Stone Age, there was no space for the individual: everyone had to conform to the group to survive. In the Stone Age, being an individual meant being expelled from the group and facing certain death.

Shame, when balanced, allows us to develop empathy and regulate our emotions and behavior. Problems arise when shame becomes excessive or when we feel no shame at all.

So how do we deal with the problem of shame? There are helpful strategies: becoming your own best friend and radical self-acceptance.

Tara Brach, therapist and meditation teacher says„… a moment of radical self-acceptance is a moment of genuine freedom.

By learning to hold yourself with loving compassion, you free yourself from suffering from the ‘something is wrong with me’ syndrome.“

If you like to have more stress in your life, than nourish shame, self-doubt and unhappiness in your life, (of course you won’t but just imagine it) then compete with yourself – tell yourself you need to or have to be “better”.

I remember a client whose mother tells her that she should compare herself to those who are better than her. One needs a role model! And she still finds herself taking her mother’s advice: She is constantly comparing herself to others.

And that is stressful – it makes her unhappy and requires a lot of energy. So what does she do when she realizes that she’s not „good enough“ or others seem to be „better“? She eats. And eats. And eats. She gives herself love, affection and understanding through food.

 

For many people, food becomes a replacement for affection, love, passion and sex. But you know what? It’s all a lie – food will never love you and if you eat because you feel shame, guilt and „not good enough“ you will become fatter and fatter.

To feel something is not proof that what you are feeling is true. Don’t believe everything you think.

Do this exercise when you find yourself feeling, for example, that others are more intelligent, better, happier, or if you think that you are boring, nobody cares about you, that you are a failure, that you are a fake and are just waiting for others to figure this out.

Ask yourself: is that really true what I’m thinking and feeling? How do I know that? Is there real proof for my “knowing?”

To be your own best friend helps you to love and respect yourself as you are and to have the body that fits you.

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Freunde

Freunde fürs Leben?!

 

Gut funktionierende zwischenmenschliche Beziehungen beruhen immer auf einem Austausch von Leistungen und Gegenleistungen.
Sie sind so lange in Kontakt, wie zwischen den Beteiligten das Nehmen und Geben materieller und nichtmaterieller Güter auf einem für beide Seiten befriedigendem Niveau stattfinden.
Achten Sie bei den Beziehungen zu anderen Menschen mehr auf die Qualität als auf die Quantität. Ein großer Bekanntenkreis, mit dem Sie mit vielen Menschen konfrontiert sind, die unerfreuliche Verhaltensmuster an den Tag legen oder zu dem nur oberflächliche Beziehungen unterhalten, ist eine Belastung, eine Quelle von negativem Stress anstatt von Befriedigung.
Für das eigene seelische Gleichgewicht ist ein kleiner Kreis von Freunden besser, in dem die Freundschaften durch häufige Kontakte gepflegt werden.
Reibungen, Konflikte und Auseinandersetzungen sind auch in solchen Be-ziehungen unvermeidlich. Sie gehören zum Leben. Befriedigend sind diese Beziehungen doch deshalb, weil jeder der Beteiligten etwas gibt, was für den anderen wertvoll ist, aber auch etwas erhält, was für ihn von Bedeutung ist.
Welche Formen des Austauschs eine gute Freundschaft begründen und aufrechterhalten, variiert erheblich von Person zu Person. Wenn Sie sich darüber klar werden wollen, ob die Beziehung zu Ihren Freunden Sie be-friedigt, fragen Sie sich, was eine wahre Freundschaft für Sie ausmacht. Haben Sie die Kriterien ermittelt untersuchen Sie, ob Ihre Freundschaften diesen Ansprüchen genügen.

Stellen Sie fest, ob und in welchem Ausmaß Sie Ihre Freunde unterstützen und was Sie von Ihnen erhalten. Erhalten Sie von ihnen Wertschätzung und Unterstützung in einem ausreichenden Maß? Fördert der Umgang mit ihnen Ihr Wohlbefinden? Können Sie etwas von ihnen lernen? Ermutigen sie Sie und geben Ihnen Kraft? Ist die Bilanz in Ihrem Sinne positiv, ist es für Sie wichtig, diese Beziehung angemessen zu pflegen.

10 Myths and Misconceptions about Hypnosis

 

Whether you are learning how to be a hypnotist or thinking about going to a hypnotist/hypnotherapist for help, it is important to have a clear idea of what hypnosis is as well as what it is not.Whether you are learning how to be a hypnotist or thinking about going to a hypnotist/hypnotherapist for help, it is important to have a clear idea of what hypnosis is as well as what it is not. These misconceptions can cause people to resist going into hypnosis. 

  • Hypnotists have special powers 
  • A hypnotist has control over the hypnotic client 
  • You are asleep when in a hypnotic trance 
  • A hypnotist could make you do anything and/or say anything 
  • Hypnosis is truth serum 
  • Only weak-minded people can be hypnotized 
  • During hypnosis, you can be controlled to do things against your will 
  • You will become stuck in hypnosis if something happens 
  • You are not hypnotized if you can hear the hypnotist 
  • You’ve tried hypnosis in the past and it didn’t work

Hypnotherapists have special powers
A hypnotist is a normal person who eats, sleeps, feels happy and sad, and loses their car keys. There is nothing special or magical about them at all. Hypnotists are trained to help guide people into a hypnotic state. Do you know a bad doctor or teacher? Let’s face it; all hypnosis is not the same. It all depends on how it is done and who is doing it. In every profession are people with insufficient training, experience and empathy. A skilled hypnotist/ hypnotherapist who has a good foundation performs the best form of hypnosis. Be carful there are a whole lot of charlatans out there selling you anything in the name of hypnosis.

A hypnotist has control over the hypnotic client
A person can be hypnotized against his/her will. No one can be hypnotized against his/her will. Not only that but a person can come out of a hypnotic state and end a session at any time he/she chooses. Hypnosis sessions are dependent upon a mutual and cooperative relationship between the client and the hypnotist at all times. A hypnotist and his/her client are equals. The hypnotist is simply a trained professional who facilitates the hypnotherapy process but does not control it.

You are asleep when in a hypnotic trance
Hypnosis is a state of altered consciousness, much like any activity in which the person’s concentration is narrowly focused, such as meditation. Clients are aware of sounds, smells, and other sensory stimuli, as well as where they are.

A hypnotist could make you do anything and/or say anything
In hypnosis, awareness is increased. You are aware of everything going on around you and what is being said to you. You can reject any suggestion that is given to you at any time. You will never say or do anything that goes against your moral and ethical principles.

Hypnosis is truth serum
A person could be made to reveal secrets or say embarrassing things in the hypnotic state. You can actually lie in hypnosis! You can also edit and withhold information. You will never divulge any information to the hypnotist that you wouldn’t divulge in a regular waking state. Remember however that lying or withholding information while in hypnosis may reduce the effectiveness of the session.

Only weak-minded people can be hypnotized
To the contrary, the more intelligent and imaginative a person is the easier it is to hypnotize him/her. More than 90 percent of people can be successfully put in hypnosis. The two most important factors associated with a successful hypnosis session are: 1) the talent, training and experience of the hypnotist and 2) the willingness of the client to be hypnotized.

During hypnosis, you can be controlled to do things against your will.

In hypnosis, awareness is increased. You are aware of everything going on around you and what is being said to you. You can reject any suggestion that is given to you at any time. You will never say or do anything that goes against your moral and ethical principles.

You will become stuck in hypnosis if something happens
No one has remained indefinitely in a hypnotic state. A hypnotic trance can be terminated by the hypnotist OR THE CLIENT at will, at any time. Coming out of hypnosis is as simple as opening your eyes.

You are not hypnotized if you can hear the hypnotist
Hypnosis is a state of altered consciousness, much like any activity in which the person’s concentration is narrowly focused, such as meditation. Clients are aware of sounds, smells, and other sensory stimuli, as well as where they are. And of cause they have thoughts and hear the hypnotist.

I’ve tried hypnosis in the past and it didn’t work
The vast majority of clients who are unable to go into hypnosis are unable due to the poor training or techniques of the hypnotherapist. There are NO bad hypnosis clients but there are bad hypnotherapists. So be careful!

If you are looking for hypnosis training
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